That governments are not loving is not a condemnation of governments, it is just a statement of fact. It is not in the nature of governments to love. There are three levels of interaction or relationships in a society.

The lowest level is lawless, and selfish. People function on this level by stealing and assaulting others to get what they want. Most governments operate to some extent at this level where they tax away some amount of income earned in the private sector, and regulate what people can do to some degree of enslavement.

The second level is relationships of respect and consideration for others. This is where liberty comes in. People at this level recognize the property rights of others who are responsible and accountable for what they choose to do with themselves and their possessions. Government will operate on this level to a degree depending on the culture of liberty among the society at large. Governments will not impose liberty on their society. It is society that will impose their culture of liberty on their government.

The third level is relationships of love which can only be obtained on the basis of the second level of respect and consideration for others. In a loving relationships people want the best for others and actively promote and contribute to what is best for others. Sometimes people think they can love without being respectful and considerate, but this is not possible. They are involved in some kind of manipulation or coercion which is not loving. Love is given voluntarily; it cannot be legislated and is therefore not in the reach of government. There is no such thing as government charity. Governments that redistribute wealth are operating on the lowest level of interactions.

People as individuals can grow and develop through the three levels of relationships. The culture of the people in a given society will determine the relationship level of their government. The best form of government will simply codify the natural law of liberty. People in such a society will voluntarily interact on the basis of property right and have access to compensation for violations of property right. Unfortunately, our governments today reflect a weak culture of liberty.